"i got married so early simply because my parents had already prepared an apartment for me.

　　"but i still pretended to be single at work, as colleagues my age are all single and it is a bit weird for them to know i am married. also, i am afraid they would leave me out of social activities if they saw me as a family man.

　　"i don't think i am yet ready to accept my new identity as a married man."

　　zhu ke, 23, who got married at the end of last year after graduating from a college in shanghai

　　"i felt great pressure to find a good job after graduation so i chose to marry a man who loves me and is willing to shoulder my burden.

　　"but it's still a bit weird when my former classmates talk about their new single lives at our get-togethers while i am worrying about things like how to pay for the house, when to visit his parents and even when to have a baby.

　　"the intimacy between me and my friends is vanishing, and i feel i am missing out on a period of time that should be the happiest for a girl my age."

　　"getting married soon after graduation can result in both psychological and economic problems. a young couple have no idea of what difficulties may confront them in their work, their family life and even from society. their impulsive decision to marry might well undermine the marriage in the long run.

　　wu zebin, a master's degree holder in sociology with peking universty